Worried because you haven’t hit certain “adulthood” milestones? You’re not behind — being an adult means learning to take care of yourself, in whatever way works for *you.* Learn how one woman’s spending habits changed when she turned 30 in this video:
Making it work is brought to you by wealth simple which gives everyone access to simple affordable investing uncurse control how to become an adult one day suddenly realize that you are now older than your parents when they got married older than your parents when they had a kid maybe older than your parents when they had you even notice the ages come and go
At which you had always told yourself that you would have various little boxes checked see them fading behind you like road signs and feel a mix of disappointment and empowerment no i’m not the person i promised myself yes i actually like this person better wonder if you said a certain deadline out loud to too many people if you had promised a family member or a
Friend that you would be absolutely definitely a homeowner or a spouse or a parent by the time you were 20 whatever wonder if they still have that number in the back of their mind – and watch it fade away behind you with a little twinge of judgement realize that you’ve had those little twinges of judgment before – if only about yourself start to see certain friends
Much less and a few select friends much much more realize that the bubbly intoxication of having a broad friend group no longer has the same appeal to you that maintaining even a few truly important relationships takes up nearly all the bandwidth you have and leaves you feeling much more satisfied anyway come to treasurer long nights sharing a bottle of wine and a
Board of cheese the people you feel free to change into pajamas with the feeling of being truly seen and understood start to use the word love more platonically with meaning and depth not the fun but fleeting i love you guys that used to tumble out of your mouth at bars and long phone calls to friends with i love you start having long phone calls with friends period
And treasure every bit of them like a warm comforting meal think very very seriously about getting a pet do extensive research including much late-night googling and heart-wrenching animal rescue video watching and bring up the subject frequently with friends over lunches be really serious about it but constantly teetering on the edge of am i responsible enough or
What about when i go away give yourself a million reasons why it shouldn’t work but eventually kay to the little voice that is constantly saying you should in fact get that pet because what you are really saying to yourself is i deserve to give and receive unconditional love keep wondering when being an adult will happen when you will reach that level of humble
Assuredness that your parents must have had when they had you that uniquely adult optimism that allows us to put roots in this world and know that we are good enough to grow from them feel like you’re missing some fundamental gene as the months and years to buy and you often feel like no less of a kid walk into office meetings and dates and important events and feel
Like you’re in a bar with a fake id a kid who’s gonna be discovered and unceremoniously kicked out wonder if anyone ever really feels grown up if they believe that they deserve the things they have and the life they live wonder what that sensation would even be like and imagine it’s something like when you get into an ocean and it’s just the temperature of your
Body surrounded by something much bigger than yourself but perfectly comfortable with your place in it except that you do not feel comfortable at least not right now know that you are not quite there yet but for whatever reasons your generation has come with a lot more asterisks on it than your parents had planned for for you becoming an adult has been expensive
And finding your place in the professional world has been harder than any smiling college brochure or would have led you to believe you cannot find the assuredness to put down roots in many ways because you cannot afford them and the idea of building something bigger than yourself is something you just can’t visualize come to terms with the fact that the game you
Are playing is not the one you thought that you would be that things will not look the way you wanted them to and that part of happiness will be redefining what that white picket fence and the family christmas photo mean to you maybe they look nothing like that but whatever those elusive symbols of stability and fulfillment are you’ll have to find them on your
Own then once you have done all of that have an utterly boring average day where you realize something very very big this is all you realize that it is new who pays the bills who gets the groceries who remembers to call the friend and the dentist and the boss when you are sick with the flu realize that it is you who remembered to get the vics in the nyquil for when
This might happen and you who pays for the monthly netflix subscription so that you can have something comforting to watch while you lay in bed all day realize that you have taken tiny bits of a life here and there and put them together into a little machine that runs on its own a story where you are the narrator and the protagonist or you get to choose what you
Build sit there in the home you have made for yourself as humble and imperfect as it may be and realize that you have done something wonderful and the simplicity of that life realize that there is no capital a adult that you must ever become or likely ever will be that growing up means taking care of yourself so that you can build so that you can put more in than
You take out so that you can leave this world a tiny bit better than when you entered it remember that creating your warm safe nest from which to work is the hardest part and that life is not lived in giant leaps every day is a tiny little battle to be better and most of the time you are winning part of being an adult is realizing the future isn’t some fantasy
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How To Become An Adult | Making it Work By The Financial Diet